We’ve all ‘been through some sh*t’ that we probably shouldn’t have and maybe even felt IT would’ve taken us TF OUT the “game” – Here are 8 things I’ve personally embraced with time, experiences and GOD.

Intuition.

Follow that shit. Intuition can feel similar to Fear. Your intuition is ultimately pointing you in in a direction that is subconsciously comfortable -even though you’re not too certain. Fear on the other hand ultimately dictates a decision that allows us to ‘feel relieved‘ as if you’ve just survived a threat- but we didn’t . Be very careful as this is often confused. Your intuition allows growth whilst fear does not. Intuition and fear can cohabitate peacefully with self awareness.

Silence.

‘Speech is silver but silence is golden’, We’ve all heard that before (or maybe just that last part), but what does it really mean? Sometimes things are just better left unsaid. Silence in my experience allows things to reveal their true nature. Now I can decipher if it’s for me or not based on self awareness. Sitting in silence and saying nothing is the better option ;especially if you happen to be emotional. Silence for me meant no drama, arguing, hypocrisy, justifying, no one-upping, no outside distractions. TAKES F*CKING DISCIPLINE. “Still waters run deep while empty vessels make the most sound”. Silence is more valuable than any response.

Authenticity.

Be your f**king self. Don’t water down who you are to make anyone around you comfortable. Do not dim your light bro. Your calling is different from theirs. Everyone does not always deserve access to you just because they’ve been a familiar face. You know who you are and the value you embody. There will be people who are intimidated by your presence and will try to box you in where they want you to fit because of their ego & insecurities. NOT YOURS TO DEAL WITH. Move along, it’s more freeing to be who you know yourself to be with time and experience. Everyone can’t come along for the ride.

Going SOLO?

Just like Beyonce did Destiny’s child, Justin did N’Sync & Normani did Fifth Harmony – GO SOLO. Time waits for no one & you probably shouldn’t either. Take that trip, go to the movies, go on that date with yourself by yourself. There’s this liberating sense of independence as you work through your fears, meet new people & gain real world experience. There’s so much you learn about yourself while being all self sufficient and stuff. You won’t ever get these years back. Do it tf up!

Single Life!

Embrace it if you’ve experienced/ing it. The pool has piss and Hennessy in it anyway. LOL J.K.. Kinda. There’s personal growth and self discovery – in the works for you ; you bomb ass fine, kind millennial bae . On your own terms & aware AF of yourself !

Making THE choice.

Stop waiting to be chosen or for them to choose. Their decision will always be based on what works best for them first. ‘CHOOSE YOU. Put you first. Make the decision that is comfortable to who you are. It’s not selfish at all -It’s you finally choosing to consciously consider yourself when it feels like you’ve been the latter for the longest.

Privacy.

No one needs to know your every move at all times. A private life is indeed a happier life. In your own privacy, you make choices without fear or outside opinions. You create your personal boundaries here and authentically develop your identity – Who YOU are. That simple.

Kindness.

Personally, it feels good to be able to help others – even if its something small. Kind behavior helps to keep life within perspective and it feels like the more I do for others – the more I do for myself. .<don’t let this right here go over your head). Your floor may be someone else’s ceiling, & you can’t break the ceiling if you don’t acknowledge the floor. Your kindness can inspire someone else’s kindness. It’s free-costs $0!